Writing, My Therapy

Keeping a diary or journal is not just for a 10-year-old girl looking to keep her deepest secrets from her parents or pesky younger brother—it's for everyone, including me. 

I have been writing in a journal for as long as I remember. I grew up writing poetry, something I picked up from my parents having both written poetry themselves. Poetry taught me the meaning of simplicity. Conveying all of your feelings, portraying a story in the least amount of words possible. Poetry has taught me the meaning of feeling, living life through words which has been immensely beneficial in real life experiences. Growing, evolving and journeying this world differently. Writing has been the tool for me to use when life got unbearable. It's saved my life—literally. Whether it's 4 a.m. when I can't sleep, on a flight to Europe, sitting in the park or chillin' at mama's house, it's always there when I need it. 

The truth of the matter is, everyone can benefit from some kind of writing therapy because everyone has problems. Writing things down can conclusively help you understand how and why you're responding to the things that are happening around you. Self-awareness= Self-evolution. Also, It doesn't have to be grammatically correct either because this is for your eyes only, it's your journey and no one else's. Some journal entries I have are very short and straight to the point. If I'm upset and feel the need to say "FUCK THIS SHIT", I write it down to avoid that energy brewing inside of me. 

 

+ Here are a few methods I've tried that's worked wonders for me. 

1) EXPRESSIVE WRITING

Because I'm a poet by nature, this method is my go to. It allows me to be creative with my words whilst dealing with negative emotions and past trauma. Expressive writing forces you to live the moment over again in detail. This method is for anyone comfortable enough to explore those feelings again, on a deeper level. The Pro to this method is, You get deep down to the core of those troubles helps you rid your mind of them faster because you no longer dwell on them. Physical health can also be beneficial to expressive writing as it's been scientifically proven to decrease Blood pressure and reduce depression symptoms.

 

2) GRATITUDE WRITING

This method is beneficial for everyone as It forces us to slow our minds down, take a deep breath and ask ourselves "what are you grateful for". I write a gratitude list for almost all of my daily journal entries because gratefulness has been proven to help you sleep, reduce depression and improve overall well being. Start with 5 things you are grateful for and watch how your life changes. 

 

3) FREE WRITING

This method is for anyone ready to get straight to the point. No bullshit, free writing is literally writing everything that comes to mind. No holding back. Write whatever you want, don't hold back. This method for me is honestly the most liberating. No fucks given, I say what I want, how I want. Writing freely is the most cathartic method.

 

+ Putting pen to paper can finally give you the freedom of letting go of the hurt you've been carrying. Maybe you just need to get some things off your chest without the judgment or biases of another person or maybe traditional therapy isn't your thing. Whatever the reason, I recommend writing. Therapy that'll always be there for you, whenever you need it.

All My Love,
   Shani